LOVE AND ACRIMONY

I have watched the movie ACRIMONY
It left me with mixed feelings…
Who’s to blame for the outcome…?
I was filled with empathy for every cast…

Do I blame the woman who was faithful for many years and sacrificially gave her all in the name of love?

Do I blame the man who saw light at the end of the tunnel and consistently pursued good ambition till it became reality?

Do I blame the woman who loved a divorced man and then made his long term dream come true?

Well…well…well
When love hurts, remember to forgive
Dwell not on your pain and grief
To err is human;this do not forget
Lest vengeance digs you a pit of regret.

Firstly, the bible says…
Don’t take it on yourself to repay a wrong. Trust the LORD and he will make it right. (Good news version)
Don’t ever say, “I’ll get you for that!”
Wait for God; he’ll settle the score. (Message version)

Two wrongs can never make a right…trying to get even with evil means you’re evil for Out of the heart flows issues of life! Learn to overcome evil with good…
Also don’t stay overwhelmed by the feeling of hatred, bitterness, anger, happiness, sexual urges etc! Being overwhelmed with emotions usually results in silly decisions. Take charge of your feelings/emotions and never make crucial decisions when you’re overwhelmed.

Secondly, The movie gives a 21st century reason why a divorcee should remain divorced else return to their husband/wife… (If they had divorced but each person remained single, the matter would have been less complicated.) Take a look at what the bible says in 1 Corintian 7:10-11

“And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master’s command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife.” (Message Version)

Lastly, Before claiming to be in love, you must be ready to meet its standards…the affection you feel must be checked against certain requirements before it can be called LOVE. The requirements are found in 1corin 13:4-7 which says:

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
(Message Version)

Like a friend told me, no one is responsible for the outcome of your life except you…I’ve pondered and found this true!
You own your brain, mind and heart…so whatever opinions get thrown at you, yours is still the decision to make!

Thanks for reading this long; we believe this write up is helpful. Please feel free to comment below and share this write up to your friends and family. It can save a brother/sister.

Ogunwusi Mayowa